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My girlfriend won't give me head. What can I do?
Try having a shower sometime.
Ok, if cleanliness isn't the issue, then you've got your hands full and it's going to take some strategy.
Most women that don't give head haven't tried it (or at least are very new to it) and have a mental picture of sucking a penis being weird and gross. It's unfamiliar territory and they're shy.
Get her to eat a banana or a Popsicle for you like you want her to suck your cock. It's an old trick, but it really works. Seeing how excited you get by watching what she does will get her thinking about giving head and help with making it familiar. It's also good to use this trick for practice trying to deep throat.
To bridge the grossness part, buy some flavored condoms. The thought of putting her mouth around your piss hole isn't a pleasant picture and normal condoms taste horrible.
Rent a porno and watch it with her, but don't rent the really raunchy kind. Go with a couple's porno- you want her to see that normal women enjoy giving head, not just sluts.
If she still doesn't do it, dump her and find a real woman. There are lots online at
Adult Friend Finder.
My girlfriend won't take it in the ass, but other than that she's awesome. What can I say or do to get her to give it up?
Try buying some anal toys for her at the local sex shop. Sex eggs, anal beads and soft butt plugs are the standbys. Buy some expensive lube too. You'll have an easier time getting her to try putting something smaller than your cock in her ass, and there are huge differences in lubricants. If she likes the toys (and the new lube) it'll pave the way to hershey highway. Just remember not to pressure her. Persuasion works a lot better, go very slow.
Renting a porno can help, and once again don't go for the really raunchy kind. You want her to see normal women enjoying anal sex. A chick getting gangbanged doesn't come off as your average 'girl next door.'
Getting a woman to take it up the ass is a very difficult task and even if your skills of persuasion are perfect, most women just won't do it. If you really crave anal sex you're much better off finding someone online that's into it. Pre-screening is the way to go.
There are lots of babes on Adult Friend Finder that into anal sex, but they are still in the minority. If you can't find a good looking sure thing in your area, narrow the field down by what they put in their profile and what they say in a chat room. It's best not to bring the subject of anal sex up directly (it makes you seem like a total pervert), so carefully examine what a woman says about herself. Words like kinky, forbidden, taboo, adventurous, wild, and uninhibited are clues that a chick might be an anal babe, as well as phrases like, "up for anything," and "looking to experiment."
Tattoos and body piercings are also other positive signs. If she's gone through the pain of getting a tattoo or having her nipples pierced she doesn't have the personality to get squeamish over a little anal discomfort.
We're not saying here that every woman who says she's "up for anything" and has her nipples pierced is an ass freak, or even that most women that fall into this profile would be. We're saying that the odds of finding an anal babe increase with these limiting factors.
The latest Kinsey study suggests that only one in five women enjoy anal sex in any form. That means the vast majority of women don't like it up the butt and you may have to date a few before finding one that does, regardless of the signs.
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